This week I have been trying to work on saying no to some things so I can say yes to others. I even have a few friends trying to hold me to it.
Sounds simple enough. But yeah, it's not that simple.
Last night our wash machine broke. We have 7 people in our home. A broken wash machine is not good and our family smells bad already- 4 boys smell. Don't even think of walking into TJ and Tyler's room after they've been in there all night. But, I digress.
Anyway, today I had to decide if I was going to try and fix it myself or if I was going to hire someone to do it. I have the tools to take it apart. The error code and the manual tells me where the basic problem lies. The question now is not "can I fix it", but "should I try to fix it"? This question comes up every time our cars break, our house breaks, something in my ministry breaks, etc. I ask this "can I" and "should I" question almost daily.
In this case, I weighed the situation, my current work load, and the resources available to my family and decided we'd hire some help. The result? I lost $185 and gained a functional wash machine in 2 hours and the ability to come home and go for a 3 mile run instead of fixing a wash machine. Expensive run or wise move? Guess that depends on your perspective.
Here's 4 questions worth asking before you go solving that problem...
- Is this my problem to solve or someone elses? Am i doing my job or someone elses job?
- If it is my problem, is solving this problem worth the exchange? Like will it cost me in time, resources, and energy and is that collective cost worth it?
- What is the worst case scenario if I ignore the problem? Can it wait and if so, for how long?
- Is my "attempt to save the day" actually robbing someone else of a chance to learn a valuable lesson via the teacher named "experience". Sometimes my desire to help actually keeps people from spiritual growth. Is this one of those times?