Influence takes time. Friendships take time. There's no fast track to either. I've been reminded lately, however, that they both come from one simple discipline I often fail to do: Linger.
- Linger means not being the first one to their car when the soccer game is done or church service is over.
- Linger means planning enough time between meetings so you can talk to the Barista or say hi to that couple in the booth next to you.
- Linger means you don't bury your head in your cell phone in the side of a room waiting for the "official" stuff to start. Linger means you hang out being available, asking God to show you needs, and having conversations.
- Linger means you have no agenda. No hurry and a few minutes to "waste". Linger feels unproductive, lazy, and sometimes even boring.